When’s my time?
That’s the key question we all have to ask ourselves at some point in our lives.
“When’s my time to do the things I want to do?”
“When’s my time to live the life I want to live?”
“When’s my time to become the person I’m supposed to be?”
You see, if we don’t ask ourselves that question, there’s one other question we’ll be forced to ask at the end of our lives – and that’s “When was my time?”
And Ozzy Eyre came very close to doing just that. You see, Ozzy allowed fear to keep him in a job he hated for 12 years, then in a job he tolerated for a further 20. In all, he spent 32 years, day in, day out, in jobs that weren’t getting him any closer to doing the things he wanted to do, to living the life he want to live, or to becoming the person he was supposed to be.
In all that time, he spent most of his waking hours away from his wonderful wife, Carole, and he missed out on their two boys growing up.
He tells how it was so bad that, when their older son was little, Carole and Ozzy could do nothing to convince him that his daddy actually lived there at home, with the family. Ozzy left for work in the mornings before their son awoke, and he was asleep by the time Ozzy got home, so why wouldn’t he believe daddy lived somewhere else?
Other folks thought that was cute, but it cut Ozzy like a knife.
So what changed?
Well, on a warm summer’s evening back in 2010 (in fact Ozzy even remembers the day and date – Thursday, 12th August 2010) Carole and he were sitting on the terrace of a beautiful little cottage, high in the mountains of Umbria, central Italy. They were on the first vacation they’d had in over 3 years and, boy, did they need it.
Earlier that same year, Ozzy’s mother had died after a short illness. Around that same time, by coincidence, several of their friends, all around Carole’s and Ozzy’s own age, were diagnosed with cancer, all within the space of a few months. And that sort of thing makes you think about your own mortality. You begin to realise this isn’t a rehearsal.
So, as they sat on that warm terrace, looking down the valley at the lights of Assisi twinkling on a distant hillside, Ozzy turned to Carole and said “Next week, when I’m back at work, I go to the back of the queue for my own time. Everybody else gets to say what I do with my day. When’s my time to do what I want to do? When’s my time to live the life I want to live? When’s my time to become the person I’m supposed to be?”
And Carole turned to him and said:
“You’re right. We need to make changes.”
Although neither of them knew it, that was the moment the When’s My Time? project was conceived. Ozzy tells how he drove back to the UK from Italy more excited than he’d ever been – and more scared. He had no idea what he was going to do, but he knew it had to be better than his life as it was.
He knew his days in corporate life were over – but he also knew enough not to quit immediately. Within 6 months, though, he had left his job and started out on the road to where he is today.
Along the way, he made mistakes – lots of them – but he always made sure he learned valuable lessons from them. He invested time and money in his own training and development, learning from the best.
He learned new skills, tried various things, including internet marketing, affiliate marketing, multi-level marketing, video production, voiceover work, animation, none of which he had thought of, or even heard of when he was sat high on that Umbrian hillside.
Some of it worked, some of it didn’t, but all of it helped Ozzy grow as a person, helped him discover more about himself, helped him find reserves of resilience that he never knew he had before.
Carole and Ozzy have travelled and met people they would never have met had he not made that decision on that perfect evening in Umbria in 2010. And many of these people have been hugely instrumental in Ozzy’s development.
It was during a conversation with one of those key people, a guy called Sam Crowley, that Ozzy eventually came to understand his purpose. He was explaining how fear had kept him in a job he hated, how fear had led to him missing out on his sons growing up, and how fear had stopped him living the life he was supposed to live – and that none of that needed to have happened if he had simply asked that question earlier. “When’s my time?”
Sam helped Ozzy understand that he wasn’t alone in feeling that fear. That there were hundreds, thousands, perhaps millions of people who felt exactly the same way. Every single day.
Sam also helped Ozzy understand that it was his duty to help as many people as he could see that, if they feel trapped in a job they hate, if they’re allowing fear to get in the way of them living the life they are meant to live, that they can change all that by asking themselves “When’s my time?”
So that’s what Ozzy does. He helps folks who feel trapped in jobs they hate, or in jobs they merely tolerate, or who may even be between jobs, see that they can decide to live the life they were meant to live, do the things they were supposed to do, and become the person they were meant to be.
And, when it comes to that question ‘When’s my time?’, as Ozzy says at the end of every podcast
“I can tell you… your time is now!”